Interesting

I suppose I found the idea of public speaking very interesting. I thought it was interesting mainly because it is what most people classically associate with communication when I tell them that it’s my major. Often we think about public speaking in a way that doesn’t give it the credit I think it deserves. The skills to motivate, emotionally move, and/or tell a story to a large group of people is beyond belief difficult. I have on many occasions had the opportunity address a large group, and every time I am awed at the courage and skill that professional politician, CEO’s and the like posses. Most people are familiar with the butterflies, but to be able to look out to the crowd and flow with ease in and out of often-difficult subjects is amazing. People have to be able to read a crowd and respond to their changing needs and interest. WOW.

What I liked, disliked, and learned

My favorite thing about this class was the blogging. I enjoyed thinking about concepts through my own lens, and there never seemed to be to many restrictions on the way we had to discuss. Three times a week was great because it forced me to continue to be engaged throughout the week whereas it could have been easy to spend one day on this class and then forget about it until the following week. My least favorite thing was probably responding to other people’s journals. This felt forced, and I didn’t always have much to say. I think it would be great if we could find another way to connect with the other students in our class if that was the point. All and all I learned more about watching, observing, and identifying different types of communication in real life settings. I also learned about how I react to those types of communication.

"intentionality"

Intentionality. When the heck do we communicate without intention? Isn’t that the point of communication? We could easily take this path and this path only, but the truth of the matter is that communication is not always intentional. One could easily argue that most non-verbal communication is not intentional. In fact we could even go as far as to say that intentionally through people off with non-verbal communication are rather clever. The intentionality of communication is interesting in so much as it can help us to better understand the true motives behind the sender. It can also helps us, if genuinely used, help us to read the emotions of the sender. I find often that when I’m upset during a meeting that someone I know will ask me later if I was ok. It seems as though I wear my emotions on my face and in my posture. This is an example of unintentional communication.

The Game of Communication

It seems clear that the pragmatic perspective is well conceived. We can see evidence in almost every interaction we have. People often refer to an argument as either winning or losing. What an interesting idea. I can win an argument. This can lead people to drop all sense of personal dignity and respect for the sake of the competition. I once read that the true idea of an argument is to try to understand the opponent’s perspective more than sell our own. My boss says, “Argue as if you are right, and listen as if you know nothing.” Not everyone approaches communication in this manner though. One could see the work of teachers, therapists, and counselors in a more proactive role. They tend have our best interests at heart. However, we could see a therapist’s role in terms of a big game of truth or dare. How or what do they have to do to get us to open up? Maybe all communication can be viewed as a game.

Social Construction

Social construction is what we are really talking about these days. This morning on my way to work I heard an article on NPR about the court’s decision yesterday to repeal the voter approved ban on same sex marriage. This is not about my personal view or feelings on the subject (which I’m not shy about), but it seems to really be about what we as a society mean when we use the word “marriage.” It seems clear that the opposing sides won’t find a middle ground at any point in the foreseeable future, but how is it that the simple official definition of a word can give some people extreme happiness while at the same time as giving other extreme sadness. This to me is the most recent example of how we as a society can shape the happiness of our own members through shared beliefs. BTW, I agree with the judge.