Nonverbal tells

Nonverbal communication isn’t something we can turn off. It is one of those things that people send years trying to study and master as it can give you subtle insight into individuals. Think out a professional poker player, and every time you hear someone talk about trying to understand an opponents tell. In this way they are trying to understand the nonverbal cues that their opponent cannot stop from happening. Unlike our ability to watch what we are saying, at least some of us, nonverbal communication really shows our emotions immediately. Often I find that they happen without thought, so in this way my nonverbal cues can get me in trouble. A year or so ago I was having a one on one with my boss and he mentioned that during a meeting I would shift my posture whenever a particular person would speak. He knows that I had some difficulty working with this person, but suggested that I be careful because my cues were so apparent. Needless to say I had no idea I was doing that.